WHAT IS MARRIAGE

Author: Pr. kalungi Denis February 27, 2021 4716 views 7 comments
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MARRIAGE SERMON BY PR. KALUNGI DENIS

KIREKA CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP

CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

This is a solemn and public covenant between a man and a woman in the presence of God," “intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity; and, when it is God's will, for the procreation of children and their cherish/support. As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage, He made one of two.”

The Bible: Marriage is a gift of God. When God brought to Adam the woman who was specifically created for him, he cried out joyfully: “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh Gen.2:23 ‘What a wonderful experience I have experienced. He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the lord proverb 18:22 "because marriage was made from heaven and its consummated on earth/ completed on earth."

This joy over a real companion is the explicit will of God: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him Gen. 2:18, 23-24. “It was Gods decision to make a woman for a man and remember what a companion does and that’s the reason why your ring is on the left-hand side because the left hand of a man is weak so if a woman stand on the left arm it will also be energetic”

Marriage has been established by the Creator; it is therefore not a humanly devised institution. It existed from the beginning, as Jesus himself defined the origin and essence of marriage in Matthew 19:4-6“Haven’t you read that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said ‘For this reason, stands a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. “God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organization developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God.

Meaning the two of you will now work for your family and it will not be your mummy neither your daddy to control your marriage this is where most of you lose it instead of the woman working for the development of her family she works taking the money back to her family

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help him up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-11. Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven if two of you Mathew 18:19

PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE 

This joy over a real companion is the explicit will of God: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him Gen. 2:18, 23-24. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground Genesis 1:28

God began Christian marriage as a sacrament that builds up the community of the Church and of society. Marriage has been inscribed in creation's design by God, and, by his grace, countless Christian men and women have lived married life fully

God began marriage relationship to reflect the relationship between Jesus Christ and His Church, it is imperative that biblical submission and love be practiced in all of its aspects between husband and wife.”

WHY MARRIAGE 

The reasons are simple:

Whatever God began is always fought to take example churches on the right foundation are fought by false shrines. But let us read this biblically in Malachi 2:14-15. Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. What God wants in marriage are the God-fearing offspring? So Satan’s purpose is to make Gods plan of Godly offsprings fail because family is the foundation for God’s, Godly Children

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2-3 let the husband render unto the wife due to compassion: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

“Christians need to identify the thief of their peace, joy, and fulfillment, in life and especially in their most important relationship, marriage”

WHAT KILLS THE FRUIT OF MARRIAGE? 

The woman was originally given as a “helper” Gen. 2:18 but not as a ruler of the man whenever a women fail to understand this simple principle troubles in marriage arise.

Through Paul, Christ also confirmed this revelation in the New Testament: “Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God 1 Cor. 11:3. The role assigned to men neither leads to a slavish submission 

The God-given relationship between man and woman is expressed most clearly in the comparison with the relationship between Christ and the Church: “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Eph. 5:24–25 if the two of you understand your marital values as the woman to submit and the man to love marriage is the best thing I have ever experienced

Where do you get your advice from?

1, Do you get it from prostitutes? If yes what do you expect from them

2. Do you get it from marriage failures? if yes what do you expect from them

3. Do you get it from a bad wisher? If yes what do you expect from her or from them

4. Which family because also families matter.

This is why Apostle Paul inspires old women to teach young ladies to love their husbands and children. Read Titus 2:3-4

Unveiling the wife God has given you before taking the vows in God’s presence in the church may give Satan the chance to claim your marriage as his. This is because you did not follow God’s instruction or statutes and if you do not take God’s statutes it means you have chosen Satan.

WHAT YOU HAVE TO KNOW BELIEVERS IS THAT SATAN COMES TO STEAL, KILL, AND DESTROY, FOR SOMEONE TO STEAL YOU WILL FIRST SURROUND YOU. 

The thief comes not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: but I come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly John 10:10

“In marriage Satan does the stealing and killing by causing poverty to the couple, by bringing comparison to one of the partners, killing sexual desires to one of the partners and bringing lust to the other furthermore stealing your marriage rights. 

There are various ways Satan uses to penetrate marriages and there as follows: 

He makes one of the partners lose appetite for sex thus denying sex to one another. Do not deny each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control 1 Corinthians 7:5

Never sleep with strangers in your marriage. This brings a curse to the marriage because it’s clearly written that whoever joins his body with a prostitute becomes one. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh. But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:15-18

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4 this means the moment you go in for adultery God removes his protection on your marriage and the marriage bed does not mean that bedroom bed only he also meant your body. 

At times family altars or foundations can also affect marriage for example if there are people in your family who are marriage failures most especially the deceased, they can hinder your success in marriage.

Parental curses are also a stumbling blocks in marriage, it could be your mummy who said a word and it’s affecting your marriage or someone else in your family.

Lastly, witchcraft is common in Africa where people are still evil and backward most especially in polygamous families.

WHO GIVES THE RIGHTFUL MARRIAGE PARTNER? IT’S ONLY GOD WHO CAN DO IT.

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14 so my brothers and sisters ask God for your better partner. Solomon slept with a thousand but he did not find one that’s how he ended his story saying a good wife comes from God.

A good wife is heaven’s last, best gift to a man,—his  gem of many virtues, his casket of jewels; her voice is sweet music, her smiles his brightest day, her kiss the guardian of his innocence, her arms the pale of his safety, her industry his surest wealth, her economy his safest steward, her lips his faithful counselors, her bosom the softest pillow of his cares

Marriage is not ultimately for us, but for the Lord. And anyone who’s ever walked with Jesus knows just how much of a target you become when your lives are rooted in faith

IS MARRIAGE A SACRIFICE? YES 100% MARRIAGE IS A SACRIFICE.

1, Because one foregoes other ladies or men’s to be faithful to his or her married partner

2. Because you forego all the bad companies for the sake of your wife or husband

3. You forego your mother and fathers place for the case of your husband or wife

4. You sacrifice your time running new characters from your wife or your husband

5. You forego your dressing styles

6. You forego your old friends

In conclusion, marriage is like giving birth no child is born without blood, like it or not.

WHAT HAPPENS TO PEOPLE WHO COMMITS ADULTERY IN MARRIAGE

First of all your body is a temple of the Lord 1 Corinthians 3:16 and I Corinthians 6:19 so you do not have to defile God's temple.

Secondly whoever commits adultery will not inherit the kingdom of God as we see here in 1 Corinthians 6:9 or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, 

Whoever committees adultery has no sense as seen in Proverbs 6:32-33 He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away 

See what happens to a man who goes in with someone’s wife here in Proverbs 5: 3 the lips of another man's wife may be as sweet as honey and her kisses as smooth as olive oil, but when it is all over, she leaves you nothing but bitterness and pain. 

Proverbs 6:27-28 can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished?

Like it or not you will be intoxicated with another man’s wife or husband we also see this in Proverbs 5:20 Son, why should you give your love to another woman? Why should you prefer the charms of another man's wife?

WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU OPT TO BECOME A BAD WOMAN IN MARRIAGE? 

It is clearly written in Proverbs 12:4 that a woman who shames his husband is like cancer in the bones of his husband. According to God in Proverbs 6:32 he says a man or a woman who commits adultery has no sense and whoever does it destroys himself.

Okay the devil is a liar, he can whisper to you, no one will see you, you will take bath and be fine read Proverbs 30:20 this is how an unfaithful wife acts: she commits adultery, takes a bath, and says, “But I haven't done anything wrong! But remember one thing that for everything done whether in secrecy or in darkness God sees it Hebrews 4:13

WHAT IS THE BEAUTY/ FIDELITY OF A GOOD WIFE?

A good wife is her husband’s pride read to proverbs 12:4 a good wife is her husband's pride and joy in fact a man can give her and everything.

A wife of a noble character who can find? She is worth far more than a scrub her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good not harm all the days of his life. Proverbs 31:10-13

Let’s also see what God promised us Psalms 128: 3 your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house, your children will be like olive shoots around your table. 

Older women are also obligated to advise young women to love their husbands and children read Titus 2:3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children.

WHAT DOES GOD SAY ABOUT DIVORCE? 

God hates divorce as we can see in Malachi 2:15-16 But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks Godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. For the Lord God of Israel says that I hate divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the Lord of hosts. Therefore take notice to your spirit that you do not deal treacherously.”

This also edifies us that there is no room for divorce what so whoever as we see in Mark 10:2-12 The Pharisees came and asked Him, Jesus, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” testing Him. And He answered and said to them, “What did Moses command you?” he said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and to dismiss her And Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female. For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

Let’s also read Mathew 19-3-7 some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason Haven’t you read,” he replied, that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” With the commandment “You shall not commit adultery.

Mathew 5:31-33 It has also been saying, ‘Whoever divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce but I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, brings adultery upon her. And he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Mind about that word but I tell you who was he? Jesus himself.

ARE THERE VOWS IN MARRIAGE? YES

VOWS IS the practice of making a solemn promise to God deliberately and freely to perform some good work before him. So marriage is 100% a vow and“A man doesn’t own his marriage; he is only the steward of his wife’s love.” 

EXAMPLE OF THE VOW

For worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health I will stay with you till death separates us! Right this vow is made for your husband or wife but remembers it’s done before the almighty Lord.

Husband I take .. to be my wedded wife I take .. to be my wedded husband and I do promise and convent, before God and these witnesses to living together with my husband after God’s own ordinance.

WHAT DOES GOD SAY ABOUT VOWS WHICH ARE DONE BEFORE HIM?

Ecclesiastes 5:4-6

When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow.  It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it. Do not let your mouth lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, “My vow was a mistake.” Why should God be angry at what you say and destroy the work of your hands

Number 30:2

If a man vows a vow to the Lord or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth.

If a woman vows a vow to the Lord and binds herself by a pledge, while within her father's house in her youth she should fulfill it.

Deuteronomy 23:21-23

If you make a vow to the Lord your God, do not be slow to pay it, for the Lord your God will certainly demand it of you and you will be guilty of sin.  But if you refrain from making a vow, you will not be guilty. Whatever your lips utter you must be sure to do because you made your vow freely to the Lord your God with your own mouth

So each time you decide to quit marriage remember the vow you made before God, you weigh whether it will a blessing or a curse. And remember that God was not deaf. 

Psalms 94:9-10

Does he who fashioned the ear not hear? Does he who formed the eye not see? Does he who disciplines nations not punish? Does he who teaches mankind lack knowledge

WHO WILL BE THE JUDGE FOR YOUR WORDS/YOUR VOW?

Your own words 

Job 15:6

Your own mouth condemns you, not mine; your own lips testify against you.

Mathew 12:36

But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every empty word they have spoken.

REMEMBER GOD’S WARNING

 Psalms 50:21

These are the things so many friends and parents have done but God says he will punish you.

Psalms 50:21 these are the things you have done and I kept silent; you thought that I was just like you; I will reprove you and state the case in order before your eyes

Confess and ask God to restore your marriage 

2chronicles 7:14 1john 1:8-9 and proverbs 28:13

MARRIAGE IS GOOD FOR THE MATURE SOULS NOT BODIES 

1, Most people think marriage is for everyone who has put on weight that is not the case. Marriage is for mature souls who have gone through tests and trial and have managed to endure and bearing in mind that every good thing has to be worked for.

2. Marriage is beyond the gifts you get on your wedding day but it’s all about endurance and obedience to one another Romans 12:9

3. Marriage is beyond the pictures and videos you post after the wedding is done but it calls for righteousness and being patient with one another 1 Corinthians 13:4

4. Marriage is beyond revenge on your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend

5. Marriage is beyond attraction because the physical beauty you saw can disappear any time but what is next? Will you quit marriage?

6. Marriage is beyond peer pressure! What happens when the pressure is done? What comes next is the marriage.

7. Marriage is beyond money, okay you found him with money what next if money disappears because money is a visitor.

8. Marriage is beyond having children, okay what about if you do not get children what next to your marriage.

9. Marriage is beyond your parents/friend’s decision, wish, or wants but it's God's decision and wishestrials so never at one time anyone decides for you, involve God in your marriage issues.

10. Lastly Marriage is an obligation that calls for righteousness, love, patience, faith, and faithfulness to your partner 1 Corinthians 7:3-5

WHAT ARE THE SIGNS OF AN ENEMY IN MARRIAGE?

Painful sexual sessions with your rightful pattern, your wife tells you I feel pain whenever I have sex with you it’s common in marriage witnessed with adultery, this is because no man’s spirit can allow or accept sharing a woman or a husband

Loss of sexual desire by one of you adultery always come with this behavior among the married couples but you have to be curious} this is because no man’s spirit can allow or accept sharing a woman

Bad aroma or odor please do not take it lightly when your wife tells you that your odor is not good, it’s one of the signs that your wife has started cheating on you. This is because no man’s spirit can allow or accept sharing a woman so it will make your odor bad to your wife such that it can win the favor of your wife.

 At times your wife or your husband will tell you, your dressing code is not good because the spirits you’re competing with bring comparison to one of the partners 

Your sexual style is not good yet she has been giving thanks each time you had sex with her more so, she or he will start to push away your hand whenever you try to ask for marital rights your marriage rights have been stolen

Familiarity is also another sign to show you that the enemy is in the house.

Rampant poverty is also a sign of adultery in marriage because this comes with a curse, spirits competing in that whoever wins takes it all.

Endless STDs in your marriage also signify that the enemy is roaming in your marriage

  For men loss of manhood meaning during marriage sessions the man may fail completely to stand to play the bedroom game due to loss of manhood.

WOES TO ANYONE WHO CAUSE THIS TO HAPPEN, ANY MAN OR WOMAN

Mathew 9:6 therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. My friend avoid being used by Satan to carry on his plan

You old woman advise the younger ladies to leave their husbands were you not told to advise the young woman to love their husbands and children Titus 2:3 More so, remember that love covers a multitude of sins but calls for patient, joy, peace, and endurance.

Do not be deceived God cannot be mocked a man reaps what he sows, whoever sows to please his flesh will reap it Galatians 6:7 what your children see in your marriage contributes a certain % to their marriage. " 70% of marriages are spoilt because of bad parents who expect each and everything in their children please does not be a deadlock in your children’s marriage. 

DREAM INDICATORS OF AN ENEMY IN MARRIAGE

For God may speak in one way, or in another, yet man does not perceive it. In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falls upon men while slumbering on their beds, Then He opens the ears of men and seals their instruction Job 33:14-16 God speaks in dreams

Dream having sex with your partner in a spiritual realm can notify you that your marriage is in danger

Dreaming an old grandmother who died some time back sleeping in between you, your marriage has been attacked 

If you dream of buying a mattress to a strange man or strange woman, it means that your marriage is sabotaged

If you dream of having sex with a strange man or woman just know that your marriage is dedicated to spirits so please, take a step to pray for the marriage

At times you can dream of animals like dogs, cats, and snakes on your marriage bed, wake up there and then start a battle for your marriage.

Dreaming breastfeeding many children on your bed please wake up and fight for your marriage

Marriage is for mature souls because it’s more than that ceremony you see and IT starts immediately after proposing for wedding, honey noon. One of the brides urinated on the honeymoon and the honeymoon night was wasted but since they were mature they went on, whoever so many battles are fought on the marriage bed.

THE FOUR REASONS WHY PEOPLE COMMIT ADULTERY IN THEIR MARRIAGES

Satan uses four steps and are the steps he used on Adam and Eva and on our Lord Jesus Christ

I. Satan identifies the desire inside you it can be a sinful desire like:

James 4: 1-4 what causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?  You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 

1, Revenge

2. To control others

3. Pride

4. It can also be a legitimate desire like to be loved

2. Doubt, 

Satan tries to get you to doubt what God has spoken to your life. James 1:7-8 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do Hebrews 11:6 says without faith it is impossible to please God because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. Did God really say it?

1, Is he really my husband or my wife

2. Will this poverty end?

3. Will this man or this lady recover from his sickness?

4. Will she or he really produce?

5. Will this man really get a job?

6. Does not God want me happy?

3. Deception

Satan is capable of telling the truth and lies and he is called the father of liars John 8:44 you belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

2. He can tell you give him a chance it will be one nightstand only

3. No one will see you

4. No one knows the lodge where you’re going to hide

5. Everyone else is doing it

6. He will solve your problems, please give him a chance

7. It’s a little sin

8. Just one time lie

This is what he did to EVA & Adam read Genesis 4:3 you will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman

4. Disobedience, you finally act on the thoughts you have been toying with in one-time your mind

What began as an idea gets birthed into behavior James 1:14-15 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed then after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. Romans 6; 23

HOW CAN ONE KEEP HIS OR HER MARRIAGE? 

Stand in the word of God, that is to say in every situation go back to the word of God and consult it because God will never work outside his word

Jeremiah 1: 12 The Lord said to me, “You have seen correctly, for I am watching to see that my word is fulfilled. Do you think God can talk and do not work? Isaiah 55:11 so is my word that goes out from my mouth will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent for.

1 Thessalonians 5:17, "Pray without ceasing, “Watch and pray so that you don’t fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Pray together husband and wife if you have children include them too because children are a blessing

Never deny your partner sex

1 Corinthians 7:3-6 the husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise, the wife to her husband the wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control

God has a 24-hour hotline you can call and be rescued from the danger of temptation Psalms 50:15 

1 Corinthians 10: 13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

It’s a reminder that married people are your GOD’s soldiers so avoid mixing with marriage failures, their advice is venom. 

2 Timothy 2: 4-5 No one serving as a soldier gets entangled in civilian affairs, but rather tries to please his commanding officer Similarly, anyone who competes as an athlete does not receive the victor’s crown except by competing according to the rules. Married people your Gods soldiers

Be faithful to your partner I saw one family breaking up because of one lie from the husband, the wife started imaging, all the days he has been telling her traffic jam, business, my friend, it was all lies.

Having spiritual eyes which can see far, when Michelle Obama was getting married to Barrack Obama, Obama was not a USA president. But through prayer and faith, he was.

Identify your pattern for sin

2. If your zip is still weak, do not pass where women are!

3. Avoid neighbor’s house if you are not contented with what your husband or wife has or gives you!

4. Report bad characters immediately if you cannot control your lust for your husband or wife.

Lastly, love your partner 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. 

If you want to prosper in your marriage stick to the principles below.

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength. we see it here in {Galatians 6:1-2}, Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future. for Paul was a persecutor but when God called him he responded. But when God, who set me apart from my mother’s womb and called me by his grace, was pleased 16 to reveal his Son in me so that I might preach him among the Gentiles, my immediate response was not to consult any human being {Galatians 1:15-16}

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow for better for worse. In sickness and in health be there God said this because tests to marriage are health.

Those who will emerge victoriously will wear the white garment {Revelation 7:13-14 & Revelation 3:5}, Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever {1 Corinthians 9:23-25}. 

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with anyone else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true. there reasons for delayed success. it took Abraham 100 years to have a child Genesis 17:4-7}

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third-party influence
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness

Disrespect, Cheating / unfaithful to your spouse!! when king David fell in love with Uriah's wife his next plan was to kill Uriah see it herein {2 Samuel 11:1-12}. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready-made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all. Moreover, no one knows when their hour will come: As fish are caught in a cruel net, or birds are taken in a snare, so people are trapped by evil times that fall unexpectedly upon them {Ecclesiastes 9:11-12}, "Marriage is not for the perfect people keep moving."

God cannot give you the complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love, and Patience. it's possible through love, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs {1 Corinthians 13:4-5}

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You cannot predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent,  That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh {Genesis 2:24-25}. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace, and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.  Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves {Romans 12:9-10}.

Today let us pray for our marriages so that God will pave a way to go through all above in Jesus' name.

PRAYER FOR THE RESTORATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE

Mathew 19:6 and Malachi 2:15-16 

2. Every foundational curse from my parents manifesting in my marriage, I break you in the name of Jesus Christ.

2. God arise and put a wide gap with thorns between my husband/wife and any strange man/woman in the name of Jesus Christ.

3. God arise and deodorize refresh my body soul and spirit with your heavenly perfume in the name of Jesus Christ.

4. My God, my father, renew the love of my wife/husband for me and the home again in the name of Jesus Christ.

My God, my father, what you have joined together, let no man put asunder, therefore, bind me and my wife together with your chains of love in the name of Jesus Christ

...........END OF MARRIAGE PART ONE........

7 comments

Sanyu irene   -   

March 31, 2021
Its really of value

pr. kalungi Denis   -   

March 31, 2021
@Sanyu lrene Glory be to God.

Muhumuza Robert   -   

May 11, 2021
Am so inspired with ya massage. Can i get the soft copy on ma email downloadable. Thank you

Joel opado   -   

September 14, 2022
I thank you for the message

Precious Teddy   -   

November 16, 2022
Thanks so much pastor for the teachings God bless you sir

Janet Esther    -   

December 10, 2022
Kindly stand with me in prayer God to give me a husband who we can work together for the expansion of the Kingdom of God.

Pr. Denis kalungi   -   

December 11, 2022
@Janet Esther please read the book up to the end, your husband will be waiting for you. Because God can't give you his delivered son before you get to know what is entailed in marriage.

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