PR. DENIS KALUNGI

KIREKA CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP

TUES/22ND/06/2021

BEFORE YOU MARRY A PASTOR, KNOW THESE FACTS

Every lady has a dream of getting married someday to her prince charming who will fit into her expectations and who she will live happily ever after with. But before you go ahead into that marriage if your prince charming is a pastor you need to get yourself to the under-listed points.

GET TO KNOW HIS AREA OF CALLING & MODE OF PAYMENT
You need to ask questions from him about which aspect of the ministry he is called into, is it deliverance, faith, healing, etc Where is he supposed to function in the body of Christ. You need to understand his calling very well and get prepared for the task ahead. Pastors don’t live by Salaries but Calvary and Calvary is a place of suffering, so if you are materialistic, DON'T MARRY

GOD IS HIS EMPLOYER NOT THE CHURCH
Do not expect that because he is in charge of a large congregation then you will not have financial challenges, many have the notion that Pastors have free access to Church money and always get disappointed after marrying him. Note that the Pastor is not the sole signatory to the Church account, the church is not an ATM. You had better prepared to spend your money on God’s work. If your reason for wanting to marry that Pastor is money induced, please, cancel your wedding.

PREPARE FOR A CHANGE
When you get married to a pastor, it will obstruct your plans, change your directions and divert your focus. Dear, there are values that you will have to uphold, actions you will not be able to take, sacrifices you will have to make, your life directions will be significantly affected. How flexible are you?

PARTNER IN SERVICE
1 Peter 4: 10, John 13: 13-17, Please, know that you are his service partner to bless and meet people’s needs in the Name of Jesus, you are to serve alongside him, do not go with the mindset that people are to serve you. You must embrace his ministry, learn under him and give him total support.

LADIES PASTOR
He will not only be the pastor of men but of ladies too and some of them will be extremely attractive. So, if you are a jealous type, you had better marry someone else and quit your relationship with the Pastor.

BIG HEART
It is not only a big heart that makes a pastor’s wife but a big heart growing in the Lord and towards the Lord Jesus. You must have a large heart to accommodate and manage different classes of people with varying characters. Pastors are celebrities, you won't survive with your jealousy, competition, envy, and over protectiveness.

NO DEPENDENCY ON PEOPLE FOR AFFIRMATION
Before you marry a pastor you must erase your dependency on people for affirmation and increase your dependency on God for approval.

RIGHT SPIRIT
A positive and caring spirit to serve others will be helpful, you must do away with self-centeredness and solo life because a pastor is a man of the people. Pastors are servants not masters, so they can be approached at any time and if you are not ready to serve, DON'T MARRY

SLEEPING ALONE
The demand of the ministry might require him to travel for ministerial assignments, meetings, and retreats which may take him away from you at night.

OPPOSE EXTRAVAGANT LIFESTYLE
If you must marry a Pastor, you must do away with an extravagant lifestyle and be humane or caring. You must not be materialistic lest the church members detest you 

ACT OF HOSPITALITY
Before you marry a pastor, how hospitable are you? A lot of people will come for counseling in your house and most of them may not be financially strong but you must be hospitable towards them even if they don’t appreciate what you are doing.

HE HAS A BOSS
He has a Boss –GOD. Do not expect him to put you ahead of his Boss. Help him to serve and obey God in all things. Please, don’t push him against God.

MAN OF GOD
Before you marry a pastor, please always remember that he is a man. So, do not assume that being a man of God he does not have sexual urges and temptations like other men, he does. Maintaining your good looks and shape is very important for you to be able to keep him from falling into temptations.

GOD’S REPRESENTATIVE
Before you marry that pastor, know that he is not just a man but God’s mouthpiece and His representative and you must respect and treat him as such, will you be able to?

NO EVERYDAY ROMANCE
marrying a pastor comes with its own challenges and one of them is that the pastor will pray at night.
So, sorry no everyday romance in a Pastor’s diary.

IT IS A 24/7 JOB 
A pastor’s job is 24 hours the seven days a week, it fits the slogan FULL TIME. There may not be time to go out to your favorite restaurant in a long time because of the round-the-clock attention demanded from his church members. Can you cope with this?

NOT AN OIL WORKER
Before you marry that pastor, please wake up to the fact that he is not an oil and gas staff. So, conflict: money may not flow as you think. Although, God’s staff are the best paid in the world over but will you be able to wait faithfully for Him to pay? His timing is different.

CHURCH CONFLICT 
Mama in the waiting, there will be conflict. Yes, even in the church, people disagree and sometimes flesh might be displayed in a dirty manner. They may form a caucus and gang up against the pastor. Are you mature enough to handle it?

THE PERFECT WIFE
You will be expected to behave perfectly, other women have the right to get angry and show it but not YOU, even your Prince charming expectation will be higher as he expects you not to demonstrate your displeasure no matter the circumstances. Are you prepared for this?

PRAY FOR ALL 
The elders, deacons, workers that hate your husband will be known to you and you still have to pray for them, and with them, can you do this?

FORGIVES AND FORGET 
Before you marry that pastor, please be informed that you will be expected to forgive and forget offenses fast so as not to hinder the Church and the Pastor’s prayer. You must have forgiveness in wholesale because, members, ministers, deacons, good women, men, girls, the youths and elders will offend you and you must forgive if you want your husband to excel in his calling.

PERFECT PARENTING
Your children are not expected to make mistakes, display tantrums, be too playful, they are expected to be mini Angels. God help you, girl if they are not.

ALL PROGRAMS
Before you marry a pastor please note that you will be forced to attend all Church programs, no excuse of any kind. If not, the Church will be having a negative impression of you.

FASTING
As the pastor Mrs, you will fast and this is not a suggestion but a compulsory thing as it comes with your wedding package. Fasting to stay effective spiritual and also to stay empowered to confront situations and command mountains.

PRAYER MACHINE
Before you marry the pastor, be informed that you will pray when you feel like praying and when you don’t feel like praying. Prayer must become your hubby. As you become pastor Mrs, you must know how to PUSH. That is praying until something happens and in the Ministry, we will never stop praying until Jesus come.

LEAD WOMEN
Your good women leader might be as old as your mum, some will try to make you realize that they are older and want to intimidate you, will you be able to handle them with wisdom?

MEETING, SEMINARS, etc 
Before you decide to marry that pastor, girl notes that he will be required to attend many meetings, seminars, and plan, organize revivals, crusades, meetings, seminars, etc You might be required to organize seminars for women, youths, and pregnant mothers which may be quite big, do you have that capacity? He will attend some alone will you be fine?

DEMONIC ATTACK
Attacks are directed at the shepherd so expect it, are you equipped enough for this? Are you a spiritually vibrant sister or a weakling? Do you have that strong relationship with heaven? Matt 26:31 You have to put on the whole armor of God, Faith and have a tangible work with God, and you have to be strong in the lord, just like your husband is, a stable and consistent walk with God and fellowship with the Word of God and prayer become a major necessity for you. Grace is made available for you in labor in Jesus' name!

There is always a story behind every Glory Some stories are short, others are long but the good news is that there is always Glory at the end of every story stay blessed.

I celebrate all pastors’ spouses, and those wishing to marry pastors. May God bless you and strengthen you in Jesus' name.