PR. DENIS KALUNGI KIREKA CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP

7th/10/2021 / SERMON

THE ROLE OF A WOMAN IN THE HUSBAND’S LIFE & THE BODY OF CHRIST

In Genesis 2:18, we read of the one thing that was not declared “good” in all of God’s creation: “Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone.’” The same verse includes God’s solution. I will make him a helper fit for him.” 

On the above occasion the word helper was used to mean someone who could give assistance to (someone); make it easier for (someone) to do something, So Eve was brought in Adam’s life to help him do God's assignments.

Eve was the solution to Adam’s shortage likewise as you-re to your husband too. The Hebrew term in this verse provides important information to better understand the creation of Eve as the first woman. “Helper” is the Hebrew term ‘Ezer. This word is even used of God, sometimes, noting that He is our Helper {Psalm 115:9-11} 

We would certainly not view God, as a Helper, as meek to humans, nor should we understand the role of “helper” in Genesis 2:18 as a position of subservience.

The concept of an “ideal partner” seems to convey the message that Eve was a complete partner. The second important Hebrew word that is translated as “fit” is kenegdow. It literally means “according to the opposite of him.” In other words, the focus is on an appropriate match.

Eve was not created above or below Adam; she was complimentary or matching. The animals Adam had named each had an appropriate companion {Genesis 2:20}, and Adam was given a fitting companion as well. Eve was “just right” for him.

The profile of a persuasive wife is being a partner who supports {see Genesis 2:18}. Being a “helper suitable for him” means being a partner who fills in his “gaps.” It doesn’t mean being a doormat or being someone who has no opinion. It does mean to work with him, beside him, bringing your gifts, talents, and passions to complete the assignment.

This is not a lesser role —just like with a skating dance team, the woman is not less important just because she doesn’t lead. We’re their partner in life who supports them. “The woman was formed out of man —not out of his head to rule over him; not out of his feet to tread or trampled upon by him; but out of his side to be his equal, from beneath his arm to be protected, and from near his heart to be loved.”

In Genesis 3:20, Adam calls his wife by the name “Eve” for the first time because he now understands that she will be the “mother of all the living.” Yet I have occasionally heard anyone say that being the “mother of all the living” was Eve’s defining role. “It seems that Eve had more than one role and that her roles changed as circumstances changed.”

As a woman, as a wife, you stand on an exclusive platform. Your presence and voice have the power to cause a ripple or a wave of goodness throughout your husband’s soul. “Yes.” You are the melody or the song God has chosen to play in the foreground of your husband’s world

In the view above a quiet and gentle spirit disarms men. This is in reference to the scripture that says, “Wives, in the same way, be submissive to your husband’s so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives” It should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” {1 Peter 3:1-2 4}

A wise woman builds her house; a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands” {Proverbs 14:1}. Please hear this. Nothing tears down marriage or family-like disparagement. Yet, nothing builds and restores it like words of praise and encouragement

Let us see what happen when Eve disobeyed God and his husband.  What did she do? Eve disobeyed a clear command from God and her husband Adam, Eve was created as a perfect human with free will and the ability to cultivate godly qualities, such as love and wisdom {Genesis 1:27} Eve knew that God had told Adam that if they ate from a certain tree, they would die. 

However, she was deceived into believing that she would not die. In fact, she was led to believe that she would be better off if she disobeyed God. So she ate the fruit and later induced her husband to eat it as well.—Genesis 3:1-6;} the bible says, And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner see it here in {1 Timothy 2:14}

With the above view I find King Solomon right herein {proverbs 12:4}, a wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Choose to be a joyful wife. Be content with life rather than gripe about life.

All of these are good things to be, but a godly and obedient woman has the distinct characteristic of having a deep and vibrant love relationship with God and her husband. She is a woman who loves the Lord, her God, with all her heart, mind, soul, and strength

So if we critically study Eve’s characters, she was not a good character actually Eve is a warning example of the danger of dwelling on wrong desires. Against God and her husband, she developed an overpowering longing to take what did not belong to her and that is who Satan has managed to ruin families.—{Genesis 3:6}

Every man needs a woman who Stands in his corner and fights with him against the world, rather than backs him into a corner.  Every man wants a woman who is on his side when they’re in the midst of a trial.  Be the kind of wife who cheers him on so he can win the battle.

Paul warns us herein {1 John 2:16}, for everything in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.

Let us see the impact of a noblewoman herein {proverbs 31:10}, A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. “By believing in him and following him, this makes him feel like he can conquer anything.

Esther is among a noblewoman, what did she do? Queen Esther used her influence to prevent the genocide of her own people. She discovered that an official decree had been issued that designated a specific day on which all Jews living in the Persian Empire were to be killed. This evil scheme was the work of a man named Haman, who was the prime minister {Esther 3:13-15; 4:1, 5}with the help of her older cousin, Mordecai, and at the risk of her life, Esther revealed the scheme to her husband, King Ahasuerus.

Esther 4:10-16; 7:1-10 Ahasuerus then allowed Esther and Mordecai to issue another decree, authorizing the Jews to defend themselves. The Jews thoroughly defeated their enemies.—Esther 8:5-11; 9:16, 17. So the effort of a lady's enemies can be defeated.

What can we learn from Esther? Queen Esther set an outstanding example of courage, humility, and modesty {Psalm 31:24} despite her beauty and position, she sought counsel and help. When speaking with her husband, she was tactful and respectful, but bold. And at a time of great danger for the Jews, she courageously identified herself as one of them.

Paul says, Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself {Philippians 2:3}

1 Peter 3:1-7 Peter has this on women's conduct and status: "Wives do not adorn yourselves outwardly by braiding your hair, and by wearing gold ornaments or fine clothing; rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. It was in this way long ago that the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves by accepting the authority of their husbands. “Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord."

Here we see Paul stipulating the role of old women,” Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,  to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled {Titus 2:3-5} “which kind of woman are you? But how many have advised to?

To divorce their husband’s

To bewitch their husband’s

To kill their husband’s

Apostle Paul on husbands and wives: "Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the church." Ephesians 5:22-23}” women was originally given as a “helper” {Genesis 2:18} but not as a ruler of the man whenever women fail to understand this simple principle troubles in marriage arise.

Deborah (the prophetess) was perfectly willing to let a man be a man. She was a wife first before she was a judge. She was a woman first before she was a leader. She was under submission first to God, and then to her husband. Some Christian women get this confused and then wonder why their husbands want nothing to do with God or the church. I’ll tell you why plain and simple. 

No man will ever embrace something with which he feels he’s in competition. If you’re making the man in your life feel that he has to compete with Jesus or your pastor, you need to repent about this.

Pursue him intimately. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control { 1 Corinthians 7:5} do not deny the man the pressure.  

Check how Delilah was able to get information from Samson. Then she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times, and have not told me where your great strength lies.” And it came to pass when she pestered him daily with her words and pressed him, so that his soul was vexed to death that he told her all his heart, and said to her, “No razor has ever come upon my head.

For I have been a Nazirite to God from my mother’s womb. If I am shaven, then my strength will leave me, and I shall become weak, and be like any other man.” {Judges 16:15-17}

Can you convince your husband today to get saved or you’re ever on the losing end. King Solomon says this in proverbs 25:24, Better to live on a corner of the roof than sharing a house with a quarrelsome wife {Proverbs 25:24} and we also remember him for {proverbs 21:19}, Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife {Proverbs 21:19}

What women call beauty, men do not count it but we count good works. Paul clarifies thin in {1 timothy 2:9-10}, in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.

Some of the things we do either welcome the spirit of the lord, or the devil, take the example of Jezebel this is what she used paint for? Now when Jehu had come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she put paint on her eyes and adorned her head, and looked through a window. Most women still apply make-up to attract men {2 kings 9:30}

The bible talks of a woman who is a snare. I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a trap, and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare {Ecclesiastes 7:26} “I think someone today can use that trap to trap her husband to Christ.”

What can we learn from Jezebel? Jezebel is a warning example. She was so morally corrupt and unscrupulous that her name has become a symbol for a shameless, immoral, and unrestrained woman.

See what whoever follows her teaching will reap herein Revelations 2:20, Nevertheless, I have a few things against you, because you allow that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach and seduce My servants to commit sexual immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols.

Be faithful to your husband: Once married, you have to remain loyal and committed to your husband, no matter what. Do not give him scope to question your faithfulness. And expect the same from him

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord Colossian 3:18. Don’t compare your husband to your: father, father-in-law, family members, friends, fellow workers, Facebook followers, fictional character, and fantasy of ideal manhood. To admire your husband is one of the most powerful things you can do for him.

Most men prefer to be admired to be loved. If you doubt this tell your husband that you love him and study his reaction. Then after prayerful consideration, think of something you admire about him. Say to him, “There is something about you that I truly admire.” Watch his attentiveness. You will be amazed at how powerful words of admiration are to your husband. Would you consider saying to your husband tonight,

There is something about you I truly admire”? Then share it with him. Lay your discomfort aside. Swallow your pride if you need to. Ask God for a spirit of humility and sincerity. Then step out in faith and tell your husband you admire him. You can do it! And God will bless you in your efforts. “You have got the role to change your husband God bless you.”